In the early stages of getting-to-know-you, everything you say is used to project what type of person you are. Use that vague question to give an intentional response, to share something about yourself that you deliberately want him/her to know. It says you are fitness oriented (you run), you’re the type of person who has sustainable relationships (you’ve maintained a friend for 20 years since college), and you’re an energetic, positive person (I’m great! ).” Obviously don’t make anything up (i.e., don’t say you went running if you really didn’t! Don’t grill: Getting someone to talk about him/herself is not the same thing as peppering him/her with frequent or mundane questions. Don’t ask more than one question per minute (inject comments and reflections in between questions to minimize the quantity of questions, making it a real conversation, not Q&A session). He did the Top Ten Reasons for things overheard waiting in line to see Avatar…. ” Asking someone to guess something is a great way to flirt and keep things interesting. So sorry about that, I was really enjoying our conversation….
), but proactively think of something positive about yourself that you want him/her to know whenever you are asked a mundane question. Turn the tables (casually): Follow up your intentional response with a related question that lets him/her talk about him/herself, such as “So, do YOU run, or what kind of exercise do YOU like? Also, don’t ask boring questions, even if s/he asked you a boring question first (Avoid: How are you? And raising a third party topic (e.g., The David Letterman Show) will make you seem easy-going because you aren’t like all the other girls or guys probing to find out if someone is Mr./Ms. But good luck on that big presentation on tomorrow, and I hope to talk to you soon! What Never To Do: While talking on the phone, never chew food or gum, never go to the bathroom or flush a toilet, even if you mute the phone (don’t risk a malfunction!
By learning how to spot a scammer, you can protect yourself.Your Profile Photo This is your chance to be in the spotlight!A majority of Bell System subscribers in the mid-20th century in the United States and Canada were serviced by party lines, which carried a billing discount over individual service; during wartime shortages, these were often the only available lines.What I’m seeing as a matchmaker in this new dating decade of 2010, is that many first dates never happen because the guy or girl had a negative impression of you via phone.Note that I used the word “impression” because it’s not about who you really are: it’s about someone stereotyping you before they get to know you, based on little things you might say, or not say, that usually don’t reflect who you are deep down. After interviewing more than 1,000 single men and women for my new book, “Have Him At Hello,” I have 9 tips to help you shine on the phone: 1. Be fun: If there’s a lull in the conversation flow, try to be fun and spark some banter. Relax him/her: Make the person feel relaxed and confident by acting happy that s/he called and giving positive feedback on their conversation skills (even if his/her phone skills aren’t great-the initially shy or awkward ones usually make better partners in the long run than the instantly slick, charismatic ones! For example, tell someone, “I had a rough day at work, but your call cheered me up! Know when the party’s over: End the conversation quickly when you sense the energy level drooping.