It's the relationship advice we wish our mothers had shared with us when we were younger.Based on Natasha Burton, Julie Fishman and Meagan Mc Crary's hilarious blog, "Big Red Flags," the book marries useful advice and startling stories that will assure readers they're not alone in the often-rocky quest to find Prince Charming. 15 Relationship NO-NOs You Keep Doing Over And Over Again While some of the anecdotes may induce a major case of second-hand embarrassment, the book ultimately gives hopeless romantics a stronger understanding of what's most valuable in a relationship—and most importantly, how to avoid ending up in a heartsick debacle.They simply want you to fit the narrative of what they feel the perfect partner is for them. Life is too short to live it the way someone else thinks you should live it.Does your significant other drink too often or go out too much? Do they become a completely different person when they do drink? Do they become sexually coercive or hit on other men/women when they are drunk? If your significant other has habits that are questionable, you should break up with them as quickly as possible and move on.
If any of these flags are waving, move forward carefully — if at all. “I’m not really the boyfriend/husband/relationship type.” You will not change his mind. If she won’t put the phone away, she’s not giving you her undivided attention and isn’t being intentional about getting to know you. If he’s looking for a little somethin’-somethin’ outside of a committed relationship, he’s not thinking long-term. If he orders for you, tells you what you should have worn to dinner, and makes every decision for you, his inner control freak has no boundaries. If everything is “the worst,” and life has given your date the worst hand ever, beware of the Debbie Downer. Is the conversation filled with name-dropping and stories of overachievement? Here are our 10 favorite big red flags that every dating newbie — and veteran — should run far, far away from: Red Flag Rule #29: If you have to think twice about whether or not your man is treating you right, you're already thinking too hard. )Red-Flag Rule #3: If you ask the guy you've been sleeping with where he sees the relationship going, and he replies, "I don't want us to be anything more than this," no matter how great the sex is, don't expect a commitment anytime soon.Red Flag Rule #5: If your "dates" with a guy consist solely of booze and booty calls, chances are he's not your boyfriend. We have all been excited about this new person we were seeing only to find out they weren’t as great as they appeared to be!Sometimes we end up staying with these same people weeks, even months, and sometimes years before we find out that we could have spent our time more effectively.